Sometimes the world gets too noisy. Too scheduled. Too focused on things that simply do not matter in the long run.
In the last couple months of last year, I began to realize I was focused more on what I “should do” instead of what I was called to do.
I needed a reset. Without really understanding what I was doing, I:
While I still took care of my family and business, I realize now that I had created a silent cocoon where I began to think more clearly about…everything.
I’ve heard it everywhere lately.
From participants in a recent retreat, clients, to friends and family I’ve heard versions of the following:
“It seems like the world is on fire!”
“ Why are people saying and doing the unthinkable?”
“ What the hell is going on?”
“Sometimes I’m afraid to even leave the house…”
I understand how they feel.
The wars, political rhetoric, gun violence and devastating environmental concerns are just a few of the challenges we all face. And when I search my own heart for answers, I know this for sure:
So what can we do?
I suggest we follow the example of the courageous souls I’ve seen who choose to center on love.
It’s important to note, these souls are not in denial of what’s going on. They...
“Everything responds to love,” is the phrase that came to me this morning as I woke up at 3:30am and thinking about our broken water heater and the mess I needed to clean up today.
“Well of course it does! Everything responds to love,” I muttered to myself as I lay in bed.
But what did that mean?
What did it mean to me, right now, dealing with a broken water heater, soaked carpet, possible water damage to several rooms, the plumber’s weekend schedule…and the cost of the clean up?
I decided to find out.
Still in bed, I prayed to be shown how to bring love to the water heater and the resulting chaos. Immediately I was told to “bring it to the Principles.”
So I did.
Taking a few deep heart breaths, I went through the Be Love Principles process I’ve taught for years. Silently I asked:
Nearly 20 years ago I studied Reiki from a local spiritual teacher who saw how curious I was about everything. I remember her smile as she said:
“There are so many traditions and practices that will interest you. Feel free to sample them! The key is to find what you love and go deep.”
I’ve never forgotten her words and it’s played out in my life in several ways.
For example, I’ve always been fascinated by the ocean. I spent years watching famed oceanographer Jacques Cousteau on TV and reading countless books on sea life. Since I lived near the mountains and my parents weren’t “beach people” I rarely even saw the ocean as a kid.
Then in my mid 40’s I decided to learn to scuba dive. I went deep. Literally.
On my first real dive into the Atlantic Ocean off the Bahama shoreline, I was “gob smacked!” My desire to “go deep” opened the door to experiencing and interacting with the ocean, not just reading about...
Last week I spent several days with a few family members in a beach house at Duck, North Carolina (the Outer Banks).
I'm not a beach person. I love the mountains. And I'd made a few less than excited comments to friends about the beach in the days leading up to the trip.
But I'd made the commitment to go and spend time with the family (especially my young grandson) so I decided to be "all in."
So what does that mean, exactly?
I decided to look for expressions of love. Everywhere. In the beach experience, the people I was with and met, and in the activities each day. I think A Course in Miracles explains it beautifully:
"When you want only love, you will see nothing else."
And that's what I experienced, many expressions of love:
The photo above is me and my husband Joe, taken in one of our local parks last year.
Like most couples who’ve been together over 22 years, we’ve had our share of laughter and tears. It’s all part of marriage.
Recently Joe scheduled two cataract surgeries within nine days. I was concerned.
In my experience, Joe isn’t the best patient.
He’ll tell you he isn’t a patient man. He doesn’t like thinking he’s not in control of things. And he REALLY doesn’t like to be told “no.” Like “no driving for a few days” or “no exceptions to the multiple eye drops per day for the next five weeks.”
As we started this surgery process, I noticed something.
Joe was much more agreeable than normal. While he was a bit nervous, he was excited about the possibility of improved vision.
It was me who had the issue.
I had multiple scenarios playing in my head during the days leading up to the first surgery and the...
“Love always leads to love” is a beautiful quote by Helen Schucman, the scribe of A Course in Miracles.
The truth of this statement rings true to my very core. Although my life often comes with the struggles that we all face, when I bring love to any situation or challenge, more love always results.
Always. No exceptions.
I experienced this firsthand a couple weeks ago as I said a final goodbye to a friend in the final stages of hospice care.
On the drive to the nursing home fifty miles from my home, I could feel the fear start to set in. And guilt. And a deep, profound sadness.
What if she’s in too much pain and doesn’t recognize me?
Why didn’t I come sooner?
How can this be happening?
I acknowledged my feelings, decided to take a few deep breaths, and gently shifted my focus. I shifted the purpose of my visit as well. I asked Love to guide me.
I parked the car and walked into the facility with a fresh perspective. Instead of bringing my fear and...
My coaching clients often ask me some version of the same question. How can I be happier? Happier in my marriage, happier with my body, happier with my life in general?
This time of year, many are thinking about upcoming celebrations and wonder “how can I have a happier holiday this year?”
The answer is forgiveness.
Lesson 121 in the spiritual text A Course in Miracles states “Forgiveness is the key to happiness.”
True forgiveness unchains us from the past and allows our full expression of life in the present. What does that mean?
Access to more love, compassion, and happiness for ourselves and all in our world.
Let me be clear. This isn’t the forgiveness of your youth when your mom made you forgive your little sister so you could get your Barbie doll back. (Maybe that was just me?) This forgiveness, authentic forgiveness, is life changing stuff.
How do you start? The Be Love Principles have been my process to shift from the constricted feelings...
We’re a week away from elections here in the United States and…I’m tired. Really. Tired.
I’m tired of hearing what people are against.
It’s hard to turn on TV, listen to the radio or check out YouTube without hearing advertising from candidates that basically say the same thing:
“The other candidate is wrong / evil / destructive / Satanic.
Save yourself and your family - vote for me!”
Now I don’t claim to have seen EVERY ad or candidate interview across the country, but I’ve seen quite a few. Many candidates I’ve seen whether running for local community posts, gubernatorial or federal elected offices campaign on fear. Period.
We’re told to fear rising prices, another pandemic, crime waves, and, of course, the “other guy.” Who is the “other guy?” Depending on who you’re talking to, it’s you.
I don’t pretend to be a politician or any type of political analyst. As an independent...
I thought I understood “life goals,” and how to create – or force – my life to be what I envisioned. I spent decades learning self-development methods, read self help books and learned about cutting edge scheduling and time management tools.
Yeah, that didn’t work so well.
Opening to mystical texts, especially A Course in Miracles, I learned something that truly changed my life: everything flows from love. Everything.
Hmmm…so how do I merge all I’ve learned over the years with this radical truth?
I used to spend hours on crafting a life mission, or purpose, then created specific goals in categories like work, family, health, and finances. While this works for thousands of people, it never did for me. Now I take a different approach.
My life purpose is to be love. Period.
What does that mean? To live my daily life from divine love, guided by the wisdom in my own heart. This is the same love that’s in you, each member of your family and...